It was noted that Mark Twain said, “My mother had a great deal of trouble with me, but I think she enjoyed it.”|
Name me a mother who didn’t enjoy her child and I’ll show you a woman who missed a lot in life.
Find me a mother who says she never had trouble with her kid and I’ll question her story.
Most children believe they have the perfect mom. And as Mother’s Day nears, here’s a tribute to one of the best, my mother. How she managed with four children in five years is still a mystery to me. It had to have been a struggle during the ’30s, when few labor-saving devices had arrived in the country.
She coped. She scrubbed clothes on a washboard after drawing water from a well. She gardened, canned the results, built a fire in a wood-stove, and cooked up the best suppers ever. She milked a cow and churned butter in a half-gallon jar. That butter spread over hot apple pie was worth waiting for.
She pedaled a sewing machine and made many pretty dresses for her daughters. I was her baby and she called me that until she died at 92.
Her last years were spent in a Valdese nursing home. She didn’t like it and said so often. Here was a lady who once had tried to make the best of things.
But now was the time to be heard.
She did not want to live with her children and she did not like “this place.” She didn’t like the rules, the baths, the food, nor her roommate who kept turning on the lights after 9 o’clock.
It certainly wasn’t the ideal situation, but when round-the-clock care is needed, decisions must be made. Nursing centers offer residents warm dry beds, three meals a day, and care that often family members can no longer provide.
We do what we have to do and live with the decisions.
Now as a mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother, my memories remain strong about growing up with a loving mother.
Her parenting guidelines still hold true today. She was a strong believer in doing the best you can with what you have.
And I remember well what she knew about motherly love.
Kathryn Yarbro is former managing editor of the Lincoln Times-News.