Many people who go through a divorce arenâ€™t prepared to handle the pain that comes with it.
â€œSome people donâ€™t even realize whatâ€™s going on with them,â€ said Melinda Houser, a family and consumer sciences extension agent.
DivorceCare, an eight-week support group put on by the North Carolina Cooperative Extension, helps participants heal from the intense pain of divorce.
â€œThey go through the same grieving process as they do if their spouse died,â€ Houser said.
The seminar began in February and will last through the end of March. It is being held at Boger City United Methodist Church.
Meetings include a video presentation and a discussion afterwards. Participants include people who are divorced, separated and simply considering divorce.
The majority of people involved in DivorceCare have spent at least a decade married.
â€œAnd all of a sudden, youâ€™re by yourself, and itâ€™s hard to accept that,â€ Houser said.
Some participants enter the group shocked. Others are dealing with anger issues. Still others have to face financial difficulties.
â€œThe amount of money coming into a household can go down because youâ€™re separated or divorced,â€ Houser said.
While there are no easy ways to fix the pain of divorce, DivorceCare does give participants sound advice.
â€œWeâ€™ve had a lot of people being able to move on and pull their lives together,â€ Houser said.
Some couples have even been able to reconcile.
â€œItâ€™s the individualâ€™s choice,â€ Houser said. â€œThey make the choice. We donâ€™t make it for them.â€
If nothing else, DivorceCare offers a place for people to talk about their feelings, which range from anger to depression.
â€œThey need people who understand that they can talk to,â€ Houser said.
Houser has been conducting the sessions for the past five years.
â€œIf thereâ€™s a need, weâ€™ll do it at least twice a year,â€ House said.
And as far as she can tell, there seems to be a need, not just in Lincoln County, but all over.
â€œThere are more and more of these sessions being offered in other counties,â€ she said.
The next session in Lincoln County will likely take place in the fall.
Those interested can contact the North Carolina Cooperative Extension at (704) 736-8461 or Boger City United Methodist Church at (704) 735-7513.
by Sarah Grano